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New ideas, fresh takes

So we went and met up with a new fertility doctor yesterday.
It was illuminating.
and *Very* different from what I've been doing.
The doctor was an interesting guy with some new ideas about what we can do with our cycles... interpersonally, he's rather different from my last doctor who was all sweet and caring... this guy was warm too, but had quite some brashness, used some rather un-technical language like "vag" and "shagging"... and he also has a tic which made the experience a bit more colourful (he hums little tunes all the time). I don't know, I think this field of medicine might attract some interesting characters.  Anyway, I guess the important thing is that he seems an honest and up front kind of guy who will tell it like it is... I think I will like him... it's just a bit of an adjustment. Plus it doesn't matter so much if I like him or not, just whether he can get the job done!
He has definitely given us some new treatment options that my last doctor wasn't comfortable with I don't think. So we will give it a go. He suggests we use a different protocol to stimulate more and get more eggs... and go freeze-all with whatever embryos we make. We'll see how that goes... somewhat hard to believe since we've never been able to freeze anything up to this point, but it's worth trying something different to see what happens. He didn't think it was time to consider donor options just yet though didn't put that off the table.
I still have a few mixed feelings... part of me is feeling foolish for not doing more research, for being too passive in this whole thing, for doing too much of the same old thing over and over with treatment up til now. Part of me feels angry that I feel foolish - I'm paying these guys enough money that I should be able to trust them to do the research for me! Part of me is then feeling hopeful of course that this new approach could offer something. Part of me feels cynical too-- that there's probably a reason my first doctor didn't try this - that he doesn't think it would offer anything different. But, you know, I'm open minded....
as is always the case in this infertility stuff, we'll keep fingers crossed and wait and see...

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  1. A second opinion and a different approach is always worth trying!

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